i have tried to understand how such a gentle man could say such harsh words. i have tried to wrap my mind around how people can cause the ones they love such pain. we all have done and said such things that which brings unbidden tears to the eyes. we have all made a mistake or two that we wish we could take back. have none of us forgiven ourselves? have none of us forgotten? No. not one. for we all feel the pain that we caused three fold and we all must accept that we are human and therefor imperfect beings. we must accept that others will make mistakes against us as well. and we must learn to forgive and forget them. for if we let them break down the connection between us then we have given up hope of rebuilding it. trust isnt only earned but given. and when that trust is bruised or even holds a hairline crack we must rebuild what we have damaged with our unwillingness to forgive and forget. we must repair the damage to keep that connection whole. otherwise you may well end up loosing someone or something important to you. you have to be able to sacrifice your own pain and suffering to tend to the pain and suffering of others. even when the person you are helping to mend was the one to break you in the first place.